'I've said NO to endless opportunities, and I see how huge the impact has really been on me. I did that because I had an obsession with comparison.'
'It hurts to talk about this, because I don't think I can without feeling embarrassed about it! That a grown woman, nearly 50 can still be doing this stuff like a school girl'
'I just want to give this up, stop killing my own happiness with doing it and finding new ways to stay doing it'
'It used to be in sport mainly, and then when I got into a new career path it began showing up often. I put it down as being a female minority with a boys club led establishment. But soon found out that the main pain was coming from my own punishment actions, and I found this out as I left to start my own business.
'I delayed getting proposals out, I delayed posting on social media or sending out newsletters, I delayed accepting invitations to events till last minute - because I'd be checking who was attending and if I could 'hold my own'...
We move into a new Financial Year, closing off the previous 52 weeks.
For many it will be a celebration of reaching significant milestone (or numerous ones), above and beyond what they could never have imagined as greatly as what has showed up. For others a reflection on getting 'nearly there' identifying the tweaks, keen for this new round. For others they did not get here at all, their business became a casualty of one or more things that derailed that version of their dream.
So here we are setting out again. What would you like the story to look like across the next 52 weeks?
Two things I invite you to do before you set sail
1) Write down the truth, the real inner stuff why your business exists
Start with this - Pretend like you are telling it to the kids, or your cat or dog! start here
We all want our special loved ones to see us. We can make that hard, and keep the truth from them because it seems silly, not important, not a priority,...
I want to talk about five words, or five understandings, that are really taking away more peace out of your life and, if you were make some switch-outs and changes, what extra joy could you have flowing into your life, because we all want more peace, more play, more prosperity, right?
The first one is ‘blame’. Where we’re using blame in words are “I blame that person for that” or “I blame that situation”, there has to be blame for it. There is so much intentions and around that there has to be a responsible situation that someone needs to take ownership, and often it is a frustration that you come with, and you wanna push that out, that you have no connection with that situation. By removing that word out of your dialogue, then you got great. There was a situation that happened and we now need to deal with the facts, we now have to deal with understanding with the opportunity to learn, and how could we improve the next time....