I want to share with you what I watched and heard happen on Saturday.
I was attending a small event for Women hosted by a great business who does customer relationship really well.
As the women were arriving I noticed that many of them were in their late sixties and over. I was the youngest in the room ;)
I am a keen observer of people when I'm out and about wondering what someone's story is, how that has influenced them to how they are 'being' today.
As I've got older, and done lots and lots of work on my own inner stuff and embraced the shadows and let the light in I've become more connected to feeling people's emotional pain whether in person or online, it is powerful.
The hour I spent in the space with these women overwhelmed me with sadness! Sooooo much of it!
One woman after another was speaking over each other
One woman after another was seeking attention from the host, in various forms
One woman after another was talking in justification speak of why she was there
One woman after another was one-upping the last woman
I was glued to this entire stage show playing out in front
The costumes they each wore (everyday clothes) hair and makeup were a mix of let me blend into the background or enormously opposite.
The language they used was either abrupt or verbose to hold the floor longer
The pain was palpable
I could feel the decades of living a life where someone else was more important was ingrained into how they still saw life.
Their own self-value undercover somewhere deep deep deep, no longer recognisable.
Visible in the phrasing they were using
'Oh I've never been..... (thin, pretty, any good with..)
'I'm not sure if I should'......
'I'll have to check with'...
'It will be better if I wait till ...
'I can make do...'
'I don't usually spend that amount on myself'
These women are hungry, craving someone to feed them with time and attention.
For someone to acknowledge them, bring praise to their spirit
For someone who can see their skills, gifts, talents.
For someone to include them into a space to play, be a contributor, be a spark to their flame.
These women come from a staunch generation that was all about children being seen and not heard. That rolled onto the stay at home women who gave their energies to the families wellbeing and kept every day organised.
From a business perspective, these women are active consumers Give them a place to be seen and heard and they will come to you in droves.
For us as GenX women, we are not far from this place either
Is this the energy you also want to be speaking from in 10-20 years from now?
Clean out the hurts - the loss, the betrayals, the regrets, the pain
They are all embedded into us as stories no other sees in the version you've written circumstances to mean to you.
What have you noticed about communication in your circles, as you're getting older?
Where do you feel unheard or unseen?
What do your friends want to talk about regularly?
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Sharyn Swan, loves Championing GenX Women to feel valued, confident, soulfully authentic, financially secure, flourishing in mid-life and beyond!
She is moving Women to 'Create Worth, Share Wealth'
Her latest offering is The SMASH Programme, a transformative 12-week money mindset makeover, helping women to embrace themselves as the CEO, crack the money code on their finances and focus their attention where it's needed most.
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